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April 26, 2012

Boys report that discussing problems feels weird and is a waste of time

by Grace

Boys reported that discussing problems feels weird and is a waste of time according to recent studies involving nearly 2,000 children and adolescents.

… The researchers found that girls had positive expectations for how talking about problems would make them feel, such as expecting to feel cared for, understood and less alone. On the other hand, boys did not endorse some negative expectations more than girls, such as expecting to feel embarrassed, worried about being teased, or bad about not taking care of the problems themselves. Instead, boys reported that talking about problems would make them feel “weird” and like they were “wasting time.”

Shocking, I know.

… parents also should realize that they may be ‘barking up the wrong tree’ if they think that making boys feel safer will make them confide. Instead, helping boys see some utility in talking about problems may be more effective,” Rose said. “On the other hand, many girls are at risk for excessive problem talk, which is linked with depression and anxiety, so girls should know that talking about problems isn’t the only way to cope.”

A middle ground for all of us might be best.

The takeaway for parents: Encourage boys to realize that sometimes talking is helpful and remind girls not to dwell obsessively over their problems.

What about college application essays?
Students writing their college application essays are often encouraged to write with great feeling about a problem that they overcame.  Boys might tend to have more difficulty with this topic.  Dr. Helen wrote about this in her post titled Does the College Essay Suck the Life Out of Boys?

One thing that caught my eye was how hard and depressing it was for the son to try and write the college essay. Many of the colleges ask for an essay about the student’s “inner life”–usually a buzz word for some kind of sappy self-absorbed nonsense where the student “took a risk” of some kind and went on to become a better person or some variation of that theme.

I can relate to this story and perhaps other parents of sons can also.  Not to worry, this is where essay tutors who charge $2,500 for 5 one-hour sessions can help you out.

October 5, 2011

How much does a college application essay tutor cost?

by Grace

Did I mention that phone consultation package with a top college essay tutor runs $2,500 for 5 one-hour sessions? That’s even more than a Westchester litigator makes, my standard for good pay for questionable work.

From a guilt-ridden father considering this as a money-making opportunity.

August 7, 2011

Students plan their summers around their college application essays

by Grace

Students preparing to apply to college are increasingly tailoring their summer plans with the goal of creating a standout personal statement — 250 words or more — for the Common Application in which to describe “a significant experience, achievement, risk you have taken or ethical dilemma you have faced and its impact on you.” Specialized, exotic and sometimes costly activities, they hope, will polish a skill, cultivate an interest and put them in the spotlight in a crowded field of straight-A students with strong test scores, community service hours and plenty of extracurricular activities.

A dizzying array of summer programs have cropped up to feed the growing anxiety that summer must be used constructively. Students can study health care in Rwanda, veterinary medicine in the Caribbean or cell cloning at Brown University, or learn about Sikkim, India’s only Buddhist state….

Suddenly, the idea of working as a waitress or a lifeguard seems like a quaint relic of an idyllic, pre-Tiger Mom past.

“The reality is that the whole process of getting into school is extremely competitive, and it’s not only what you do during the school year — your grades and extracurriculars,” Mr. Isackson’s mother, Marla Isackson, said. “It’s your whole package, including what you do in the summer.”

Apparently, colleges look for “mastery” and “passion”, while “well rounded” means “no edge”.

For a Standout College Essay, Applicants Fill Their Summers – NYT

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